On RedHotPie, we notify you whenever someone views your profile, Fav's or matches you, or when you receive a friend request or validation. You'll also be notified whenever someone starts a new conversation with you. On either the App or website:
To see your views, Fav’s and matches, click on Prospects 
To see pending validations and friend requests, click on 
To see your new conversations click on the Messenger tab 